The Poets Korner: I Am Not My Mother

I am not my mother

The most important walk

Is less then a block

And it

Means forever.

A promise made with a long stride

That I'll always be by your side,

Doing wifely things

Every day and night

Cause I walked…

Well,what if I ran instead?

Could I still be held accountable for your happiness?

Or what if I skipped?

Even fell or flipped,

Would the vow still make sense?

It doesn’t matter I guess.

I am not my mother

And divorce is just another lover

Found at the wedding dinner or the laundry mat

In fact

Lets get divorced first and see how that fares

Maybe will stay together in the end

Dead White: White Oleander

 Janet Fitch and her 1999 bestselling novel White Oleander is a must read.

It is the story of Astrid Magnussen, a twelve-year-old girl living in LA. She lives with her mother, Ingrid, a poet. Astrid's father is not involved in her life and she relies only on her mother. Because of her shaky home life she has trouble fitting in at school. Her mother Ingrid is self seduced and cold. She abides by a list of her own rules and demonstrates little interest in her struggling daughter. As a result of her mother's constant neglect, Astrid fears abandonment more than anything. After an altercation with a male friend Ingrid is imprisoned for murder and Astrid is thrust into the unpredictable and unforgiving world of foster care. Throughout her trials she makes friends, personal relationships and deals with her own battle with drug addiction.

Imaginative and eventful Fitch demonstrates the sour nature of the nation's foster system and the effects of bad parenting. Though the book is quite depressing at times and rather shocking at others, it is a testament to the unbridled girl power that girls and women must exhibit to survive in a male run world. And the struggle for us to escape our mothers, who hold such sway over our lives. Astrid decides to take hers back. 

I totally recommend this book,

it is a great read.